MemberAugust 11, 2020 at 1:50 pm
My general understanding is that marriage (according to Scripture) a covenant between a man and a woman. There are, however, some things about biblical marriage that might be a little controversial today. For starters, when a woman becomes a man’s wife she becomes his possession/property. This is pretty clear when we pay attention to the wording of the 10th Commandment, where a wife is literally described as a thing that belongs to her husband (see Ex 20:17; Deut 5:21). Another way to confirm this is by considering one of the main Hebrew words for husband, “ba’al” (Strong’s H1167), which simultaneously means “husband”, “Master”, and “owner”. This tells us that a husband is also the owner and Master of his wife. Moreover, the Hebrew verb “to marry” is also spelled “ba’al” (Strong’s H1166) and comes from the same root as Strong’s H1167, which tells us that when a man marries a woman he becomes her Master/owner, and she his possession. And finally, a third insight into this reality of biblical marriage is the dowry, which is a payment made by a man to the father of the woman he is to marry. This is functionally a payment made to a man/father for the possession of his daughter.
Once I understood the above principles, it finally made sense to me why the New Testament repeatedly tells wives to submit to their husbands, but never once tells husbands to submit to their wives (Eph 5:22; Col 3:18; 1 Pe 3:1). The reason why is because biblical marriage creates a hierarchical relationship between husband and wife that places him above her as her head, and her under him as his possession (1 Co 11:3).
To the latter part of your question, I don’t think believers should wear wedding rings because of the pagan association, nor do I believe marriage certificates are necessary for a union to be recognised according to the Most High.